It wasn’t just about weight loss for Mary Miranda. She realized that she’d never be happy unless she completely transformed her mind and soul, too. Now she’s in the best shape of her life, physically and mentally.
My story is more than a physical transformation!
I went from hitting rock bottom to healing, reconstructing and transforming my life by using fitness, nutrition, meditation, journaling and personal development. Been in abusive relationships is the best thing that has happened to me because it propelled me to heal my life and become my best-fit version.
My name is Mary Carmen Miranda, a native of Celaya, GTO, Mexico but settled in Chicago, IL. I am 32 years old. My life took a 360-degree turn, not only in my body, but also in my mind, heart, and soul. After 10 years of being in 3 abusive, toxic and unhealthy relationships, I was able to finally get out, heal, transform and find true happiness.
Many go through metamorphoses and transformations of the body, but what about those transformations of the mind and your inner body? Yes, it was amazing being able to obtain the body of my dreams, but my greatest transformation was learning to love myself. You can’t be a healthy person if you have toxic thoughts. It is a balance of body, mind and soul.
I was 145 lbs when I left my relationship and I was able to lose 38 pounds. Maybe it’s not much, but when I looked in the mirror I felt fat, did not love myself, hated my body and I did not like the person I was seeing in the mirror. I lost 20 lbs in less than two months. The rest I lost while I prepped from my Bikini Fitness competition.
But, even after I got the body of my dreams and after I was eating healthy, I still did not feel well. I hadn’t healed my heart, mind and soul. I left my last relationship without identity, not knowing who I was, depressed, angry, resentful, anxious, insecure, afraid, with no self-esteem, traumatized, lost, not knowing what to do with my life, with chronic stress, and with many health issues due to emotional stress. Yes, emotional stress is manifested as physical illness, mostly digestive, muscular and psychological. Emotional pain is stored in our bodies and in order to heal, we need to shift that pain out of our bodies. I then discovered Quantum healing and paired this with exercise, nutrition, mediation and journaling to help me shift the pain out of my body. This is what I called “My Fit Healing.”
To my surprise, I not only healed the trauma of abuse, but also my childhood trauma. It was amazing what happened. Now I understand that to heal your life, you have to heal your past from the root. You have to analyze the patterns of your childhood, how was your relationship with your parents and connect the dots to your present life and try to heal all from the root. This is the only way you can fully heal by understanding why you keep doing certain behavioral patters, dating same type of person and you will be able to work to break those patters and set yourself free.
But you know something; I allowed all these to happen because I did not love myself. I didn’t know my worth, value and I was settling for what I thought I deserved. I was attracting people who were unhealthy, because I was unhealthy too. You attract what you are. I was codependent and attracted covert narcissist. The hardest thing I had to do was not to forgive these men, but forgive myself for allowing all that to happen. After I learned how to forgive myself, I was able to forgive these men and today feel grateful for my hardship.
My goal is to educate people and bring awareness that emotional and verbal abuse, are also part of domestic violence. Sometimes words hurt more than getting physically hit. Words can stay with you forever and damage you more in the long run.
This has been the best thing that has happened to me in my life, living these experiences because thanks to them, I woke up! I put myself as a priority and succeed in making the best transformation of my life. Today I feel happy, fulfilled, on the right path to success, healed my trauma, I attract healthy relationships, and most importantly I love myself.
I found my mission in life, which is to help women who have left abusive relationships, heal, rebuild and transform their lives, while getting fit and healthy. This is part of “My Fit Healing.” You heal your entire life in a healthy way. I want to help them see their hardship as the best thing that happened to them and as the motor to inspire them to want to change their lives positively and become their best Fit versions. Every woman deserves to be happy, heal her past and have a healthy life in all senses. Now, I want to inspire women who have been through abuse to do the same, feel the same and feel happy on their own.